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Line Dances, Bring Families Together


I love weddings. They are the perfect blend of love, romance, vows, fancy clothes and craziness. I have seen the ceremony from every side, having been a flower girl, bride, maid-of-honor, mother-of-the-bride, mother-of-the-groom, guest book attendant, coordinator, and guest, so therefore, I believe I can speak as an expert on the subject. 

We all know the best part of the wedding is..THE RECEPTION!  I believe that is the reward for all of the hard work that went into the big day. Sometimes, it can actually be the only motivation to get some people to even walk down the aisle!

I have been to probably 100 receptions in my life and each one has given me a great memory. I’ve been to a “surprise” reception, given when the bride and groom had no money so their friends had a party in their basement to celebrate.

Then there was the reception that was held during a Christmas party, after the bride and groom showed up and announced, they had eloped to the courthouse.  The scrambling party hosts pulled the snowman and snow-woman, Christmas salt and pepper shakers, cut some fabric from the tablecloth and glued it to the snow-woman to make her a “bride”, plopped them on a cake and threw foil Christmas tree cutouts, instead of rice, at the newlywed guests.

I have been to “hoytie-toytie” receptions, where everyone had tight butt cheeks and complained the music was too loud and the room was too cold and I have also been to redneck receptions, where keg stands were done by the groom AND the bride!

Receptions are such an interesting social experiment. You take 2 families with very little in common, stick them in a room together and tell them “OK. Eat cake and Chicken Dance!” I guess that is why so many receptions have a lot of alcohol flowing. It is needed for the families to drop their guard and begin “blending”.

If you notice, DJ’s at these events, usually play the same songs every time. They include, The Electric Slide, the Chicken Dance, YMCA, the Cupid Shuffle and other similar songs that I call “conformity, dance songs”.  Recently I realized, there may be a bigger purpose in these types of songs, other than just making every one walk in a line together  and “one hop, one hop”. Maybe standing next to a stranger and being forced to mirror each others dance steps, breaks down barriers and lets us know,”Hey, we are all just a like and being forced to march in a line to the beat of the music, puts us all on the same playing field proving, we are now family.” Hey, they make soldiers march in line to get them to learn to work as a team so why is this any different?

I guess next time I’m on the dance floor trying to  “get low, get low”, I will look around at families of the bride and groom, knowing, a line dance makes all things equal. Class warfare stops when the DJ announces, “OK, everyone Charlie Brown!”

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